Smoking people out?

[Urca]

So I do this alot, just to be nice and earn some karma points. but its really starting to piss me off that the same people will continually smoke my weed, but never return the favor. i mean, i barely ever get smoked out, but i do it for people... idk its just getting old, but when i pull out my weed i dont want to make people feel weird (i do when other people smoke around me but never pass it, even though if they're around and im smoking ill let them hit it until they get high)

 

[Nusky]

hrm usually when I smoke people out they have some too. Usually thats the whole reason we get together, to compare weeds and mix them up. Maybe you need to find people who are more chronic

 

[Urca]

nah these people smoke as much if not more than i do, idk they just dont feel the need to reciprocate, and it pisses me off.

 

[medicalmaryjane]

i dont' worry abou tthis shit. smoke people up and if they aren't friends, you don't see them again and it's not an issue. i don't mind smoking people up, probably because i grow some of my own. if i were spending money al the time, it woul dbe another thing but honestly, if it's that much $ that it's a concern, you need to make more $ or smoke less.

 

[Nusky]

maybe try asking them if they want to pitch in and mix a bowl for a better high. I'm sure down there you pay lots for your weed so you are entitled to ask them to match you I think

 

[j4droopy]

my girl told me to "never feed a stray" and let me tell you, that is good advice when you live in the ghetto.

Just so you know Urca, your real friends will always bring it back.

 

[Urca]

its friends and family, and i do buy it all. shit, if i didnt smoke them out id be getting high right now

and my sister does repay the favor like 1/2 the time

 

[aesan]

I feel u bro... dumped most of my friends about 6 months ago....... never been happier lol

most of them were just dead weight, and they didn't feel bad about wasting my money so I don't feel bad not answering their calls

 

[Urca]

idk, id rather we just all pool our money and smoke, so i dont get mad. im pretty much gonna chill on smoking people out, cause they need to realize im not always down to share.

 

[medicalmaryjane]

yeah that's what i do, stay to myself. i rarely see other people. when i do i smoke them out (as you say) but it's not often so it's not a big deal. most of the time i smoke alone whwen i get home from the bar or when i take a break from developing. you're too dependent on other people. u need to do what u want and stop worrying about what they will think.

 

[Monkeyfloss]

Dont know about karma but if peeps know youre generous then eventually you'll have it come back round to you. Well thats the theory I live by ... LOL I'm still waiting.

 

[Nusky]

well you're almost out on your own now and you're on a growing forum, when you move out (if you haven't already) get like a 400 watt system and give good deals to your friends. They won't notice a difference, just tell them you found a better dealer. But it all starts at you buying in a bigger quantity and then selling it to them. Thats how I started getting friends at work. I'd pay $200 an ounce and sell quarters for 60. I always broke even or pretty close to it. It feels good when you smoke a good deal of pot and only need to throw in $20 to buy another ounce.

 

[justcallmenasty]

nah these people smoke as much if not more than i do, idk they just dont feel the need to reciprocate, and it pisses me off.

they smoke as much as you because its always your weed there smoking apparently.

 

[nick17gar]

maybe you can make it fair by offering them dirty dishes to scrub. hell, thats 1/2 the reason my gf is around. she smokes it, and then gets her ass back in the kitchen!
haha thats sounds really dbaggy, its not so bad for her tho

 

[MrVanker]

Sorry for the long post, but I needed to get it out.

I'm sort of in the same position as you Urca. I only have one friend where I live. I worked with him at a restaurant, we'd buy from one of the cooks and both put in for a bowl or blunt after work. We both got fired around the same time (for BS reasons), so we were dry for a few months. I got my tax return while he was waiting for unemployment and blew almost all of it on food for him and his daughter, and weed. That was back in Feb and I still smoke him up.

I buy an 8th on payday, we smoke at his place most of the weekend, there is normally ~1g left on Sunday, and I leave it for him. I can't take it home, so I can't do anything else with it. What is starting to piss me off though, is that lately he has sort of been acting like the bag is his. He keeps it in his desk, he packs the bowls (in the foil pipe because he broke both of our bowls...), and he can be a bit stingy with it. When I say that we should pack another bowl, he'll give me this odd look like I'm being rude! Also, when he steals weed from a 'friend' (read: sheisty, smug, hustling dealer) of ours, he is reluctant to smoke me up.

We have talked about how much I helped him when he had no job, if I hadn't he wouldn't have been able to feed his daughter or himself. But when the issue of repayment comes up, he states $50 as the debt. When I bought him food, I knew that there was a good chance that I wasn't getting the money back, so I don't care too much. But at the same time, be honest about the position you were in, and are in. $50 is better than nothing, and he can still barely afford the basics, so I am patient. But sometimes I wonder why I am still friends with him.

 

[Johnny Retro]

You are being taking advantage of. Don't always succumb to peoples wants from you. The trick is to find a happy medium. Do them a few favors, ask them to do some favors for you. If they don't, then fuck em. And this goes for everything in life, not just weed...

 

[THENUMBER1022]

been in that boat, had many friends that it took me years to realize they were taking advantage. You will realize who your friends are when you leave the weed in the jar and don't call them. A friend will hit you up and offer to smoke, or do something else and offer to smoke too.

Considerate pot heads will always offer to match on anything, let it a bowl, blunt, joint, bong, whatever.

What does that leave? a very small percentage of your "friends"

They aren't friends, they are deadbeats that can't get it for themselves, but when they do manage to get it for themselves, they hide it away for only themselves.
Lost a very good friend because he used to throw down twenty every other three or four blunts and then he stopped throwing down but kept hitting me up.

You aren't donating to a charity, you struggle to get pot just like everyone else. the price of the bag plus the time and energy it took to get it is insurmountable. The truth is, friends will hit you up when they are bored just to hang, and they should always offer some of their smoke or some dough. Don't take a long period of time to determine who these moochers are, just stop calling them, stop offering them weed. Wait for them to smoke you up, and remember communication is key. Just be clear with what your issue is, theres no reason not to.

 

[MrVanker]

For me, the issue is his money situation. I'm fairly sure that is the reason he isn't contributing to the smoke. He makes about $650 every two weeks, his rent is $650/m plus utilities, then there is food, gas, car insurance, etc. So I understand that he has barely enough to live on, I grew up poor, I know what it's like. On the other hand, he's been in this situation for almost a year now, and he knows that a raise isn't in sight (greedy vegan restaurant). I keep hinting that he needs to get a 2nd job or a better one. He and his baby mama split custody so he has her 3 nights/wk and 2 days/wk, and he doesn't want to lose any time with her. Which is understandable, but if he gets evicted, he may not have any time with her! Perhaps I care too much...

Sorry for the hijack Urca... will try to tone it down now.

 

[Hepheastus420]

4th thread that could have been saved by "the urca thread".

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

4th thread that could have been saved by "the urca thread".

Actually, not this time. The topic of smoking people out and etiquette is a pretty touchy issue that other people deal with too. I'm sure everyone has that 'friend' who smokes all their weed and it's hard to tell them to fuck off.


Oh Urca... It's an awkward one isn't it? People owe me $200 in money loans and the last time I smoked up a girl, $80 gone in a couple of hours... But asking to mix them is a good way to hint as Nusky said. I've tried that recently ( I smoke out people 2 or 3 times a week) and she did eventually get her bud out after months of me going miles out on the train bringing the weed and Munchies to spend the night with her.

I know what it's like, you don't want to seem like a bitch. Also try asking the other person to roll or pack a bowl but don't get up to get your weed and after a few seconds of them looking for it, then realizing it isn't out they'll produce their own. Sometimes. -_-;

I can't give the best advice as I'm I the same hole but try it...