Can one be gay and not know it?

Florida Girl

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Personally I don't think one would NOT know. One might know and be afraid to admit it... but I don't think they wouldn't KNOW deep down.

I'm female and I know with all my being that I am only attracted to men.... women hold no sexual interest for me. I can certainly appreciate beauty in other women.... both in looks and in their inner spirit.... but I'm in no way attracted to them physically.

I can only speak for myself.... but it is my personal belief that people know if they are gay.
 

EarthlyPassions

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I think so.
I think it's easy to live life simply not asking yourself the question. Or to subconsciously avoid the question altogether.

I always told myself that I was a late bloomer, or that the guys I met were just too immature to attract me. It wasn't until my best friend asked me if I was gay that I finally realised I was attracted to girls, but even then I told her that I might be bi. And I continued to believe that for a couple of months too.
It completely depends on how good you are at skirting things that make you uncomfortable.
 

bobharvey

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Of course you could. Who here knows everything about themselves? It takes a lot of introspection to figure out who you really are. It's all about what your ego tries to identify with and what it doesn't. Your ego only wants an identity.
 

Dirtyboy

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Shit you would know. Figure it out! If a boy likes a boy gay and if a girl likes girl gay. The only way ya dnt know is because you are too young and not sexually active.
 

blinkykush

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here is a test, think of a dudes balls smacking on the back of your ass. If that dont make you cringe like it does me, then yes you are gay.

and I dont judge by the way if you are, thats fine by me Good luck;-)
 

EarthlyPassions

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here is a test, think of a dudes balls smacking on the back of your ass. If that dont make you cringe like it does me, then yes you are gay.

and I dont judge by the way if you are, thats fine by me Good luck;-)
Plenty of gay dude couples never do anal. Despite the fact that they are gay, they still have internalized homophobia, and neither is comfortable being penetrated, or indeed penetrating, because they feel it makes them less of a man.

Took me a while to get over the idea that wearing a strap-on would make me less of a lady, or that it was a "gross" "dyke-ish" or just plain embarrassing.
 

Stoney McFried

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It could be good old fashioned denial.I am straight, and I know this.If you aren't sure, kiss someone of the same sex.If you like it, go further.Good luck.Oh...and if you have a significant other of the opposite sex, don't jerk them around.Break up with them before you go exploring.
 

jahman2222

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some guys like gay porn but there still straight..i dunno thats a good question..hell some guys even like to fuck eachother but they still got wifes..
 

Stoney McFried

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If you fuck someone of the same sex, you are no longer straight. You are at least bisexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that, I'm just saying.
some guys like gay porn but there still straight..i dunno thats a good question..hell some guys even like to fuck eachother but they still got wifes..
 

MoePunn

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I don't know, but I'll keep you all posted... :confused:

I think you've already answered your won question partner...

here is a test, think of a dudes balls smacking on the back of your ass. If that dont make you cringe like it does me, then yes you are gay.

and I dont judge by the way if you are, thats fine by me Good luck;-)

My favorite uncle was bi (but had a body count over 200 women that is), he battled with it for years and years but once he came to grips with it He was @ peace with it... Not to scare you but he did eventually die from HIV though and not that this should really matter he did catch it from a man.


i dont think so, i mean if your turn on by the same sex then you'll know it.


The best example I can give was I was once told by a pedafile it's just like you or I that may have a fetish of Asian chics or Laker girls or red heads or Super long legs or whatever we all have a thing that turns us on his thing happened to be little girls (not really little like 14 or 15 y/o, like 1st hitting puberty, he said his thing was virgins and where better to find a virgin), and after listening to that while I'd still break his neck if he even glances @ my lil 12 y/o daughter but I understood what he was saying, agreed with it absolutely not but understood I'd have to say I did. With that said I think you know what you like (even if its another guy) but you're just not comfy with your self to admit it... Be truthful w
ith self cause if you will lie to you then who isn't going to lie to you??


If you have doubts then give it a try. You'll know then


Nothing beat a failure but a try right LOL go for it bra:hump: Just not my cup of tea but I'm not GOD so I'll not be accused or convicted of passing judgement...


So I suppose the answer is depends on the person but my opinion is U can not know! Real question is what do you do about it when you figure it out?
 

GuNjAhLoRd

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i think girls kidding girls is fukin great but i cant stand watching guys hook up just makes me feel all yuk and u should def know if ur gay once u start fantasizing bout same sex being bi is stil gay just hiding in the closet dont be afraid be free:peace:
 

MoePunn

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some guys like gay porn but there still straight..i dunno thats a good question..hell some guys even like to fuck eachother but they still got wifes..


yes Jahman you're very right, however just like Stoney said that would at bare minimum classify you as bi-sexual (maybe bi-curious if we pullin teeth) but I would think post the act you'd have to be bi-sexual
 

MoePunn

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i think girls kidding girls is fukin great but i cant stand watching guys hook up just makes me feel all yuk and u should def know if ur gay once u start fantasizing bout same sex being bi is stil gay just hiding in the closet dont be afraid be free:peace:


Girl on Girl is the best thig in the fuckin world... You have not had a bj until you've had two chics blowing you at the same time and as they do they'll kiss each other and then back to you... Its like the 8th wonder(ful) of the world LOL.... Now 2 guys on the other hand for some reason I can't get the image of 2 Jedi's dueling with their lightsabers and one of them ending up like Count Duku @ beginning of episode II when Anikin chopped off his dome... Call me crazy but thats the picture I get... With all that said I could care less what they do, its just not my cup of tea so.....


Enjoy yourself
 

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BubbaSlick

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See, sexually I only think about females... But I'd rather live with a dude... If that makes any sense...
Hopefully DMT can help me figure it out. I could just be an extremely sexist straight guy... :shrugs:
 
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