As for parents that scare their children into obedience, they bring children up into a very warped and just plain wrong view on what hell is and evil is. Hell is not about God torturing people and people burning in a lake of fire, weeping and gnashing their teeth as they deal with the horrible pain that is inflicted on them - Hell is the final result of the guilt, suffering and torment that people experience in life and bring upon themselves from birth.

The whole idea is that we have a chance to be saved from hell by a Messiah, that there is hope so that we will not suffer in torment eternally. We are not condemned to hell for eternity due to disobedience by a higher power as punishment, we end up in a hell as a result of the evil and guilt that consumes us. We are on a downward slope to insanity and dementia from the moment we tried to be God, its the concept of the fall of man - the concept of original sin.

Sorry just had to get that last bit out..