seriously the guys that are what you describe have a bitch from hell magnet so instead of attracting a nice woman that will respect you and value you for the way you treat her, she wont be attracted to you she will always make room for the manipulative cunt that has her grip on you before you know what happend..

EDIT and honestly a really good guy usually scares the shit out of me like hes really a closet maniac that is waiting to snap as soon as I fall for the good guy bait...