hey UF - I realize I am making it sound all rather simple which really isn't fair, and understand that it is not simple by any stretch. My world went through hell and back in the last 5 years (I refer to it as what was....no longer is.....in the blink of an eye, the world in front of you does not in any way resemble what was experienced for the previous 15+ years), and I was forced to make a lot of difficult decisions or.....choose to die. In my case it has helped me more fully appreciate and comprehend the importance of the now. and how important a blend of the now and being with the doing is.
GS - thanks, there absolutely is the differential....and as I said above, it certainly is not black/white or clear cut.....it has many shades of grey. For me, those shades of grey are driven by the values that you hold dear and as non-negotiables. And it took me a while to figure out exactly what is was the was valuable. I followed many a poor path to end up where I did....hopefully I can make better decisions in the future.
At the depth of my circumstances in early 2005, I was sent a poem from a good friend of mine, that got me changing how I tihkn. The author is Oriah Mountaindreamer (
Oriah) and the poem is "the invitation". that led to reading her four books...the Invitation, the Call, the Dance, and What we Ache for. I highly recommend them, though it does take some paradigm shifts (or at least it did for me) to reap the benefit of of this. I found it to be a great challenge, but one that has provided substantial rewards.