When God created the world and everything in and on it ,he said it was all good.Man has called it bad to fit his agenda.
It is not cruel to fail,it is cruel to not fail and see what is right and what is wrong.It is how we as humans learn from trial and error.Some never learn.
It also has to do with denial and responsibility,no one wants to fail and look like a idiot,so they deny they did any thing wrong.I take responsibility for my actions and make changes to correct my mistakes and learn from it to not do it again.I am man enough to admit my short comings and not deny them like a coward.OPH