You need to work out what you really need. When you feel angry or depressed, that's an alarm bell saying that something you need isn't being taken care of.
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Originally Posted by GrowSpecialist
The best person for you to talk to about it is HER. You might be surprised at how much you can improve things when you bring it up to her and tell her what you've told us.
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You'd be surprised at how much a conversation about this will go. Don't do it while you're angry, though. Just one time when you're chatting or whatever say, 'you know, sometimes I feel like this when blah'. It takes some skill and practice to communicate like that so you might want to preface it with "i'm going to try something here and I'm not sure how it'll go." But being straight is the best thing you can do.
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Originally Posted by AchillesLast
She is a great girl and it would probably take awhile to find someone as cool and understanding as her.
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They are few and far between, that's for sure. My partner is pretty needy, too, and, like you, I'm the kind that needs space and quiet to 'recharge'. Once I started taking care of myself like that, and talking to her about it, she realized that it was in her best interest to back off sometimes.
I'm not an expert i'm just saying it worked for me. You should at least tell her. She's probably wondering what's going on.