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Old 12-08-2008, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted by AchillesLast View Post
Does that mean I should break up?

I often find myself contemplating a single life. It's not that I'm bored and and my girl just doesn't satisfy my looks anymore. I just find myself constantly wishing for the freedom I had when I was single. I get tired of having to call someone and tell them where I am or having stupid fights about staying at her house or my house. However, we have been dating for over 1.5 years and for 8+ months of our relationship it was long distance. After that initial 8 months she moved to my town and goes to my university.

This is where my problem lies. Had she been a local girlfriend from the beginning I don't even think I would be contemplating this question, but I feel I owe her so much because I was basically the reason she moved. She is a great girl and it would probably take awhile to find someone as cool and understanding as her. But she can very needy while I am very independent and those lifestyles often clash as I have no problem being "on my own" sometimes (doing me stuff, practicing guitar, or just decompressing after a long day) while she needs me in her life ALL THE TIME. She can't find anything productive to do when I'm not with her and it get's SUPER ANNOYING.

I promised myself I wouldn't post my problem on these forums but over the last three months I find myself contemplating this issue more and more. I just want to talk about it to someone about it.
im kinda in the same boat you are man

my girl is away at college and she is coming back to visit for a month

she wants me to go to san jose with her, i live in sacremento

i dont want to go so i said no and shes got mad at me cause i didnt want to go

guilt tripped me all fucking day til i was finally sick of it and said fine fuck ill go

she wants to hang out EVERY day... every day....i cant fucking do every day

im the kind of person where every day i need at LEAST 3 hours of me time.. sitting smoking a bowl reading roll it up etc

she fucking wants me to go to her house, spend the night, spend the whole next day with her, then come spend the night at my house blah blah blah

i cant be around her for more than 10 hours without smoking but she doesnt like it


anyway enough of my complaining this is your thread... well all i can say to you is put up with the relationship, but start drawing some lines man

tell her you need you time too, and its not that you dont want to hang out with her there is just other things you have to do
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