it is bag seed, so ya most likely one is a male.
i will try doing both the only thing is i cant get ahold of another desk lamp or the money to buy one. i know with cfls they should at least have one light 1" from the plant. i have no idea what to do when they get bigger.

p.s. isn't it wierd the small one by itself it is actually missing one of the main leaves and the leaf itself has branched out very strong in one day, as if it took the place for that other leaf. it has a strong will :]